"Mrs. Anderson, the last 28 days have shown Vivace to be excessively aggressive, both verbally and physically. He is often caught posturing as if he will fight and making aggressive facial gestures to provoke his peers. He has lifted his pencil as a weapon towards staff members, along with shoving, pushing, kicking and general aggressive stances. He is aggressively telling them "no" in their face before they even complete a simple request like, "please, sit properly." He started a fight because he felt he waited too long to have a turn to shower, he tosses the board game if he loses. He provokes, teases, and verbally harasses his peers. He finds every chance he can to insult and degrade them, and every chance he can to showboat and brag about his skills or intelligence. He refuses to attempt any school work that is the least bit challenging. He would rather create an aggressive diversion than struggle with a new concept. He often is caught in lies, manipulation and adult triangulation. He is acting entitled and is not very self aware. He is impulsive. We believe we are seeing his true behaviors as demonstrated in the home, now that therapy is getting into some deeper issues. The honeymoon period is over and he is realizing he will need to earn his way out of the facility by being responsible, attempting new tasks, being non-combative, receiving instruction without becoming aggressive, and making a genuine attempt at general relationships with peers, staff and family."
11 comments:
Wow! That pretty much summarizes everything you have been blogging about ever since I have been reading your blog. My grandma always said, "Where there's life, there's hope." I'm praying and I'm hoping.
I'm glad they are seeing the truth of his behavior. Now, if you can just convince Tri-Care to keep him there until he is better able to cope with the outside world...
Yes, it does sum it up doesn’t it. I am continuing to pray for healing.
Also, I just caught up on the post of you husbands home coming...such precious pictures!!!
I'm sorry that these words are true, but am so glad that the staff has seen what you have been dealing with. Praying that one day he will feel safe enough to let down his defenses and let love flow in. May God intervene on his behalf, for insurance, for healing, for salvation. May Vivace feel so accepted by God that he no longer fears being rejected by people.
Wow. I'm so glad you are validated - but at the same time sad that this is the truth. You know you are in my prayers, sweet momma.
Glad they are seeing the truth of the situation. Yet, so sorry you have to see that in black and white, I'm sure it's painful. Praying often for Vivace, for healing and restoration to him and your family as a whole.
"We believe we are seeing his true behaviors as demonstrated in the home,"
I'm glad they're seeing and believing more than ever - will keep praying daily and many times a day. I have pictures of those boys everywhere and pray constantly for them both
Karen Burke
Praying for healing. Praying for insurance to allow him to stay longer. He clearly needs it. We are battling with TriCare also, finally after 1 year we are getting somewhere. All I can say is, DON'T give up. If they deny it, APPEAL. Appeal it to the highest level. Keep going. It's very tiring and time consuming but it will get you somewhere.
Jillian,
Praying for you all and for your insurance to come through. I'm with JJ, keep appealing.
Karen
So I had a really busy week/weekend and I am JUST now catching up...and wondering how in the world an insurance person can read those words and say that 150 days will magically mean their responsibility is finished? Really?! Praying, praying, praying that God will make a way where there seems to be no way!
So. So. Hard.
But ... glad that he is showing them his true colors. It is so hard when others think that your most difficult children are "just so sweet".
Laurel
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